social study

Just indifferent to Paris

Yesterday there was a lot of watercooler talk at work. Given I don't have any social apps on my phone since the "Vrath" and I stopped listening to the radio while driving to and from work, was living in my own world. A few of my coworkers broke the news to me that 50 plus people were dead in Paris and there were multiple co-ordinated terror attacks and a hostage situation. 

When I came home Jr. asked me "Appa, do you know that there is a terror attack in Paris?" and I responded "yes". The little one chimed in with "Good thing your friend is back in the USA!" 

Somehow, I did not feel like reacting to this last night, with the usual :

- change my profile picture with a superimposed French flag

- write a one line status update to say how I feel for the French

- go like those new profile pictures 

etc. etc.

Those things don't do diddly squat towards a root cause fix.

My friends who are living in a parallel universe with exclusive news from Fox are quick to point out how "all muslims are terrorists" yet again. 

I am no saint. I have my share of bigotry, when looking up to my gun owning friends for an answer, everytime some idiot or deranged person goes on a rampage killing a few dozen people at some college or school or movie theater. Why should every gun owner apologize for the doings of some "deranged person"? It is not fair, because not all gun owners are mass shooters,  much the same way every muslim doesn't need to apologize for what happened in Paris because all muslims or not terrorists. 

We live in a world which is very well connected but we are also numb and immune to a lot of things because they are "out of sight and out of mind". We as a people need to understand that what goes around comes around. 

Have not seen many friends change their profile pictures to make a statement that said, what was happening in Syria to hundreds of thousands of innocent people was wrong, even when that four year old floated onto the european coast. When we are expected to feel so strongly for a 120 Parisians compared to 120,000 Syrians, there is something wrong with this world. 

The potential of human beings is not ratio'ed out based on their nationality or religion. 

Some of my friends have actually come out and said  "terrorism has a religion, it is called Islam"!

Well, show me a religion and I will show you a terrorist who claims he belongs to that religion and he is doing whatever he is doing, because of his religion. There are even buddhist terrorists in today's world! Religion is a means to an end. When the means become the end, we have a problem.

Also, nut job is a nut job in any part of the world, irrespective of religion. If folks are willing to blow themselves up or willing to be blown to bits in the name of defending god and country, it is time to rethink the solution to the problem. It is unlikely that we will eliminate religion. We can eliminate socio economic and political divides that are created by religious differences.

We need to see everyone the way we expect others to see us. If we are indifferent to the world, sooner or later the world will be indifferent to us. 

Can see that happen to me already. I have closed my window to the world. There was a time when I used to meet friends for lunch on a regular basis, meet old collegues, have tea with friends at home, call my family in India, on a more regular basis and stay in touch. Those things have dwindled down in favor of bowing down to my new god, the almighty USD!  In my attempt to reach his potus feet as fast as possible (it is an American god, pretty sure, it is a very male chauvinistic HIM.. because if it was a HER, the god will be worth only 65 cents..), I have changed a lot of priorities. 

Also given that every 15 -20 days there is a terror attack, drone strike, mass shooting and the occasional natural calamity in the form of earthquakes, tsunamis and heavy rain or floods, one feels the need to automate the obligatory condolence and solidarity messages on social media to say "I am with the crowd". 

What really gets me more than the terror attacks, is the quick response of the media in the US, to justify their phobias and their previous propaganda. This is specially true of Fox news clips that folks are sharing with me on Facebook.

Going forward, you will not see me post solidarity messages for anything. Yours truly will be happy to be one with himself and be able to not flinch, the next time someone says "terror attacks in abc or xyz". 

It is time for us to show that the USA, IS the greatest country in the world, not because it can proclaim itself so, based on the value of the USD and the number of weapons it has, but because it is able to stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. 

If you can proclaim "non-violence" you don't even have to enforce "non-violence". If you proclaim violence, you will only be enforcing more violence in a vicsious never ending cycle. 

When I wrote that the US should not go to war in Iraq after 9/11 a lot of folks were upset with me. That vendetta war and the destabilization of the middle east has left us scars that will last a long time. Now there is a call for war with the middle east without knowing who we are fighting.

All the rhetoric that pits people against people in increasing numbers, is not going to help. 

Both Obama and Hollande are saying "Unity" will help us get through this. 

I agree.

It is time to Unite with the folks in the middle east and share their pain. It will help us get through this, not tomorrow or the day after, but maybe in this lifetime! It will get us to resolve all that is wrong with the world, much faster than another dozen drone strikes or by sitting in the comfort of our living room changing profile pictures.

It is time to spread some peace people! 

ps. See myself right now as part of the problem, not part of a solution. The solution is peace, not war. So if I don't speak up for peace now, I am just fueling the fire. You cannot fight fire with fire. You fight violence with peace, not with more violence. 

Out of time, out of place

Conversation with Jr. while driving her back from class

Me: did you know that your cousins and uncle went to a high school football game ? Apparently it is called a .. 

Jr. : Homecoming game.. I know. Do you know why it is called a homecoming game?

Me: No. 

Jr. : (starts explaining something about games, winning, losing, parties, etc. etc.) and sees my eyes glaze over in the rear view mirror and asks "do you know what a homecoming is?"

Me : No.

Jr. : didn't you have any school rivalries when you went to school?

Me: No.

Jr. : Didn't you have homecoming games?

Me: No.

Jr. : thinks for a second and goes "okay. let's start with the basics. Did you go to high school?! "

Next time I have to start steering the conversation in a different direction.

A polarized world

The last two months have been very depressing. Lots of work, travel recovery, news in general, a busier schedule for the kids as school and all their extra curriculars start off full swing and all these made the bags under the eyes more pronounced and dropped my energy level to an all time low. 

It became noticeable to the point where wife and kids pushed me out of the house and said "why don't you go to yoga class?" That was a clear signal that something was way off. They said that at least for an hour after coming home I was a little chirpy. (that used to be 4 hours after coming home!). Got a doctors appointment last week and told my doctor "wife and kids are saying I am moping around all the time and my energy level or interest level in anything and everything is going down rapidly".

The doctor said I was physically very fit. My blood pressure was excellent as was my blood oxygen level. A blood test for a bunch of things was checked off to see if there are issues related to metabolism etc. etc. While I did not understand the jargon, went for the test and got the results. Turns out my Vitamin D levels are off the charts this time on the low side and that is directly related to being depressed. I did have the same issue three years ago but it was low, not this low. 

Going to walk in the sun at least for an hour with short sleeve shirts or no shirt if possible every day, take prescription Vitamin D and check again in few months. That takes care of one part of the problem.

The kids extra curricular schedule has been juggled to the best of our ability, some classes have stopped, others combined to multitask with groceries, yoga class drives, conference calls that can be done while driving long distance to drop kids off in class etc. etc. That will hopefully help in the coming months

The last part is the "news". I interact with "news" once in the morning and evening listening to NPR during work and home drives. Check google news headlines once during lunch and the rest of it is from watching Daily show or Colbert report (now watching previous nights show online at dinner time of Trevor and Colbert's shows). Also watch John Olivers Sunday show on one of the weekday nights at dinner time.  Everything I hear in those interactions is downright depressing. 

It almost appears as though the sane folks have lost their voice and the extreme loonies are the only ones left screaming from the rooftops. 

Forget the war on drugs and the war on terror. My opinion is that there is a war on facts and data right now. Have a lot of data points that say it is not just opinion, but a fact.

There is a lot of fear mongering out there which is pitting people against people on almost every issue. 

You turn on the news and it is all about Immigrants, refugees, war, weapons and discrimination. Some of it is not even news. It is a bunch of folks peddling outright misinformation on national channels. How they are able to do this with impunity with no consequence is beyond me. They should be prosecuted for hate crimes and treason because the misinformation they propagate is actually not in the interest of the country or the people watching them.

Having lacked Vitamin D and being lost in thought all the time, one thing keeps recurring. The basic ability to put oneself in another's shoes seems to have become a rarity. The people who do not have the ability to reason out things seem to have a louder voice than the folks who can ask the repeated "why?" and dig down deeper. 

How do you reason with the unreasonable? That is a tough one. 

Had a long rant of a post on faith vs. religion and what is going on in the US and India with all the Islamophobia and if there will be any reprieve for the folks in the middle east. It was about how poor muslims and sectarian minorities in local geographic areas get screwed over by richer muslims or western countries. The post in itself was so depressing to read that I deleted it. 

There are still a lot of good people in this world that can move it forward. Working on raising two that will hopefully join that category. First thing to work on is to teach them that faith in something (preferably themselves) is a good thing. Next thing to work on is to teach them that religion is a crutch not an asset. Think they are already on the right path on some things but they are fanatical about Apple. So have to wean them off of that. 

Enough with the rant. Onwards we move.. and to post something positive to make up for all this negativity...

Today I learned the difference between having your "chin touch your shoulder" vs. "cheek touch your shoulder" and what a big difference it makes! A post on that later.