Neeyum Naanum (you and me)
Friday, May 1, 2009 at 9:45PM Watched Abhiyum Naanum on DVD. It was a great movie. Came out teary eyed in a lot of places. First real sappy daddy movie to hit the screens in a long time.
Even the big girls were all wiping their tears, possibly thinking about their dads?!
Most of the things in that movie have happened for real in this house. The girls as much as utter a sound, daddy will be right next to them. The alert level in the house for the girls getting hurt is always at Orange, much like the San Jose Airport since a few weeks after 9/11. Daddy is still designing airbags in his sleep that will make sure that there are no scratches on the kids if they get in an accident.
If this movie captured our past and present very accurately, then it is offering a very scary glimpse of the future for daddy.
There is a lot of growing up to do, for sure.
Just remembered this post and the comments that followed! It is not going to be easy for me to see my girls say bye to me.
Funny thing is they already know that they can live without me but it is me who cannot live without them and this theme came as a self realization way before this movie was made!
Hell, I should have scripted this movie. Okay, just kidding..
Those occasional flashes of truth fade into the background in an instant and we are back to the "my child" obsession.
One thing is for sure. I treat my FIL with a lot of respect. He is the only person who could put things in perspective for me when my kids decide to get married. Not my wife, not my parents, not my kids. Only the FIL can give me advice on what it means to become a FIL myself someday.
Maybe he has no profound wisdom to offer me and will brush it aside with stuff like "achcha baba" or "chalta hai" or some such thing which leaves you staring into space going "what was that?" , or maybe he will take me aside and bare his soul on what he was thinking at my wedding....or maybe he will start a school for prospective FIL's and offer coaching classes?
Only time will tell.
Hopefully by that time, this dad will be wiser. One can always hope, no?
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daddy, growing up, indian movies, marriage, perspective, tamil
Reader Comments (2)
Oh yes, its also makes the daughters think back.
The movie really touched a cord.. even though it was dragging in the second half. Being a daddy's gal myself, I know how difficult it is for dad's to send their daughters to a foreign country with the "maapillai"! My dad fell sick the day I was leaving India for the 1st time and still gets "butterflies" whenever take off after a visit! :-)