We have a photo of my dad's mom on the shelf with the gods. For some reason, it has been a custom on my fathers side of the family to include grandma's photo with the gods. There are a lot of older dead relatives who are not given the same treatment.
So, it was suggested by the kids that my recently departed Grandpa's (mom's dad) photo be added to the Ummachi shelf (prayer shelf).
Seemed like a good idea and the small 4x6 was placed in one corner.
A conversation with the kids
Little One: Can we put GNB's (Carnatic singer G. N. Balasubramaniam who died in 1965!) photo there on the shelf too? He is also dead and we love him, right?
Me : Hmm.. We do have a photo of his. We can put it on the shelf if you want. But he is not family!
LO : thinks for a minute and goes "can we put Michael Jackson's photo there too?"
Me : !!!!!
Jr.: yes appa. he is dead also and has wings right?
Me : yes. MJ definitely has wings just like grandpa. But we can put his poster on the wall.
LO: Why don't you put it on the Ummachi shelf?
Me : It is complicated. When Michael Jackson was alive, I thought he was god. Somehow, now that he is dead, I have a problem praying to him along with the rest of the gods.. Your daddy is not smart enough to explain what he feels.
Now we are just going to take Thatha's photo and put it on the wall. Then take MJ's poster and put it on a wall as well to make all parties happy.
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